Is it normal not to squirt?
“As I said, our bodies are made differently, some women experience ejaculation while others may experience orgasm. For others it’s both,” Dr Kihara said.
She refers to ejaculation as a release of fluid that is often, but not always, accompanied by orgasm and orgasm is a wave of pleasure and release of sexual tension that may be portrayed differently in women.
“I tell my patients that sex is like a journey, enjoy the process and stop focusing much on the destination. Embrace your body’s reaction, if it happens that is great, and if it doesn’t, that is okay. Everybody is unique,” she said.
Whether with a partner or not, reaching the climax requires a team effort.
“When your body is aroused, your vagina and vulva swell as blood flows in the area. When the G-spot is stimulated continuously, there comes a ‘pee like’ feeling, by breathing and releasing your pelvic floor muscles, you actually exaggerate the feeling,” She said.
Many women, however, are advised to pee before intercourse in case it happens otherwise.
“Just remind yourself you're not about to pee and go with the flow.”
Dr Kihara said if it doesn’t happen, it is still okay, and if you find a hard time letting go, doing Kegel exercises can train your pelvic floor to release.
Is it really pee or not
Unfortunately, experts and researchers are yet to clarify whether female ejaculation is similar to male ejaculation.
However, there are small glands, located near the opening of a woman’s urethra that seem to be the source of the ejaculate, Dr Kihara explains.
Although these used to be called“Skene’s glands, she says their placement and function have led most researchers to refer to them simply as the female prostate.
“The fact that pee and the female ejaculate come from the urethra does not mean it is pee. Though some urine may be released into the ejaculate, the fluid may contain small traces of urine, ” the experts said.
Female ejaculate lubricates the urethral opening just like 'pre-cum' (the pre-ejaculate in men).
“A lot of work needs to be done to unlearn negative ideas about sex. It takes more than lying on your back. It takes gathering information, trying things out and having some uncomfortable conversations with your partners and, most importantly, with yourself,” Kihara said.
“Unlearning silences and shame about sex are difficult, but the journey is very much worth the destination when you arrive.”
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