Celebs who were in abusive relationships (List)

24 December 2022

• Abuse can be mental,physical, sexual or financial.

• These celebrities were able to leave the abusive relationships but not without trauma.

In 2022, different celebrities were brave enough to share their journey dating/married to abusive partners.

They include.

1. Njeri Gachomba alias Njambi of RHOK

The celebrated Kenyan actress this year reveled that she was in an abusive union with her second baby daddy known as Nelson.

Speaking during a candid interview with Mungai Eve, she said

"It got to a point when I became suicidal. I would go for three weeks without talking to someone.

I was bitter, There was a time I found out he was cheating via text.

I approached him and the confrontation became chaotic I hid in a bedroom.

I lit a mattress before my daughter knocked on the door and asked me what was burning, I came back to reality.

He was very dramatic and said that I wanted to kill him and the kids."

Her baby daddy once beat her so badly because of chatting with male friends.

"One day he beat me up while sitting on me.

He used to threaten me that I would be taken home as a corpse.

I took a boda from my house to my mum's place. I got panic attacks."

Adding;

"I had left the kids at my house.

I went to the cops but they told me they never interfere with family affairs."

The actress says what hurt her most was that he brought in someone else the same day she left

"The day I left my marriage my baby daddy brought someone else.

He went around telling people that I was a hoe.

2. Aida Alisha

The former Mother-in-Law actress was married to an abusive husband.

In a detailed interview this year, Alisha shared

"He was Luo and I was Kikuyu. I knew him for a year before we got married. I started seeing the red flags after marriage. Women were calling him at night asking where he was.

I would call the women and demand to know why they were calling my man. The man would say the women were not over him."

Adding

"There is pressure from the church for people to get married. The guy was 28 and I was 21, I did not know much and I was at the peak of my career.

When I look back I think we had trauma bonding. His dad was very abusive and so was my dad. At the time I did not know much about trauma bonding. When you are raised in an abusive relationship you either become the abuser or the victim."

3. Jane Muthoni

The celebrated Kikuyu artist revealed one of the reasons her first marriage failed after her husband became physical.

"I was very well known outside but inside in the house I would cry.

My marriage had gotten physical, at the time I was a celebrity.

I had a very good relationship with my then-father-in-law. My ex-husband used to joke that if his dad died I would leave his house.

I was judged a lot when I left my marriage.

She has since moved on and is married to a man based in the US.

4. Kamene Goro

Kamene Goro in 2022 opened up on being badly beaten by her ex.

Speaking to Obinna on the morning Kiss, the sassy radio personality said at the time, she was afraid that society would judge her.

She, therefore, stayed with him despite the beatings and other malicious things he did.

"The first boyfriend beat me like a thief and he was beating me as if I am a fellow man," she said.

Kamene added that being abused changed how she viewed herself.

She said the fact that people would question her about what she did wrong to her ex-lover made it even worse.

"We cannot fault you as a victim. What I want us to pick apart is how society makes it look like it is normal. What is it that you did? Sometimes, society gets you back to stay in abusive relationships and some parent also tells you to be calm in such relationships."

5. Mercy Mwangang'i

Mercy Mukui Mwangangi was fresh from the Australia’s University of Adelaide, where she earned a master’s degree in Health Economics and Policy when she had an ugly fight with her boyfriend.

On a night in 2015, a night she will never forget, her boyfriend went berserk.

In the midst of shock and fear, she had to act swiftly to be safe.

“That night at 3 am when we had the altercation, I remember thinking, okay so this has happened, whom should I call?

And interestingly the first person I called was my lawyer to see if there was a legal recourse,” she said.

She gave the account on Wednesday during the Gender-Based Violence Prevention and Response scientific conference at the Kenya School of Government in Nairobi.

Though the former boyfriend never physically assaulted her, she said he was full of rage. Abuse doesn't have to be physical assault but it can graduate to battering.

“He was beating walls around me. He was enraged and there was a lot of scuffling.

I remember thinking I am an empowered 29-year-old woman. How could this happen to me?” Mwangangi said.

Mwangangi said she was shocked at how she found herself in such an abusive relationship.