Morning Kiss co-host Oga Obinna has advised women not to take matters too heart when their men cheat.
According to Obinna, when a man wants to cheat not even serving him food on a gold plate will stop him from straying.
He was reacting to a pastor advising women to treat their men good so that they do not cheat.
"The pastor thinks that is a woman treats their man right he won't cheat? A lady will karanga bulbs and marinate, she will go to the gym and do everything including in the bedroom.
She will manage finances well like a Kikuyu, she will prosper education wise like a Luo, she will be resilient like a Kalenjin. a man will still cheat."
His advise?
"Do not be threatened by a pastor. Zoea sauti ya pastor na co-wife. A man is a man and when he cheats it's not about you."
There are different reasons why a man/woman might end up having an affair. Some of these include
1. RUSHED MARRIAGES
In most cases, many people are getting married for society, for their parents, because they had a baby together or just to be called husband and wife.
This rush into marriage or getting married for the wrong reasons will lead you to struggle to be faithful as you married a stranger or someone you don't connect with.
2. BAD COMPANY
The wrong friends will incite you to be unfaithful and even cover up for you because most likely they are also having affairs.
They might as well give bad advice about your significant other which might lead to unnecessary fights. Surround yourself with friends who will keep you accountable.
3. UNFINISHED BUSINESS
An ex that you had intimacy with can be a huge threat to your marriage, especially if you didn't fully end things.
You will find yourself running to him/her when things between you and your spouse are bad, and due to history, things can get intimate very quickly.
Close the door to your past. If you are weak, block your ex and don't let your spouse who is your present and future, be uncomfortable about your past
4. INTIMACY FRUSTRATION
Denying your partner conjugal rights will only lead to frustration that makes you vulnerable to temptation.
5. PERSISTENT DISAGREEMENTS
If you two keep arguing over the same issue, you will grow apart. Soon, you will find someone of the opposite gender to vent to and who will make you feel more understood than your spouse does.
This might lead to an affair therefore couples should learn to solve issues quickly and seek to understand each other, keeping off the little foxes.
6. WORKING ENVIRONMENT
Your working environment can as well contribute as a factor that may bring up an affair. Allow your spouse to know your close colleagues.
Be deliberate about spending time with your spouse by coming home early. Take a shower immediately when you get home to present your spouse with a fresh you.
7. LUST
Lust makes you self-centered and leads to intimacy addiction. This will lead you to use multiple people even when you have someone you should be committed to.
The cure for lust is love. Learn to ignore messages, social media Groups, and intimate talks that fuel lust.
8. EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
Failing to attend to your partner's emotional needs will see your partner get someone else who values them more willing to do so. Be cautious and considerate about how they feel.
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9. LONG DISTANCE
Distance exposes you both to potential temptation as it robs you face to face interaction which grows intimacy.
If you lack self-discipline, you might fall for someone physically close to you to take the place of the one who is far from you.
If you are in a long-distance relationship/marriage, use technology to communicate often, and be accountable to each other about where you are and with who.
You should ensure to work on ending the season of being far from each other soon.
10. CAREER
Some careers will put you in intimacy-charged environments or cause you to travel a lot and if you are weak, you will have intimate encounters with others.
11. REVENGE
Some people become unfaithful because their spouse was/is unfaithful. You might think that you are punishing your spouse but you are stooping low as you abandon your principles.
Just because you are hurt doesn't mean you go out of character. Don't let your spouse's mistakes make you become who you are not
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