Not only that, why enter into a fight while at the club?
Let's not forget that before Jacque Maribe's ex saw the outside of jail, that his family had to give out a title deed for his Ksh 2 million bond!
Also, let's not forget all the horrible stories that we heard had happened to Jowie after he went to different prisons in the country.
Again I ask, why would he risk going to jail again for such preventable things? The probable answer is the psychological term known as self-sabotage.
It is when a person actively or passively takes steps to prevent themselves from reaching their goals. This behaviour can affect nearly every aspect of their lives, be it a relationship, a career goal, or a personal goal such as staying out of jail!
Have you ever had a friend or someone that you know whose own behaviour after they got ahead was to do something that put that achievement at risk? Jowie is a classic example that all Kenyans can now see.
What are some of the traits of a self-sabotaging individual?
-Blaming others when things go wrong.
-Dating people who aren’t right for you.
-Trouble stating ones needs.
-Putting yourself down.
-Choosing to walk away when things don’t go smoothly.
-Procrastination.
-Picking fights with friends or partners.
What causes it?
It happens normally as a form of self-preservation when we are younger, things that were adaptive in one context but are no longer necessary.
These behaviours helped a person adapt to a previous situation, like a traumatic childhood or toxic relationship, and survive the challenges you faced there.
Tips for overcoming it
-Identify the behaviors.
-Learn what sets you off/triggers you.
-Practice getting comfortable with failure.
-Talk about it with a professional like a psychologist or a counselor.
-Identify what you really want in life and write it down and stick to it.
But I could be wrong and Jowie wasn't self-sabotaging. He just wanted to parrrrrtttttyyyy!!!
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