Tedd Josiah reveals how technology has made him fearful of dating

16 August 2021

•I find it hard to even have a relationship because you don’t know if you’re an “option”, a “good time” a “I needed a rebound” a “just need sex” a “forever” or a “bank”.- Tedd Josiah

Years after the death of his wife Reginah Katar, Joka Jok founder and music producer Tedd Josiah says he finds it hard to date.

According to Tedd, technology has changed the dynamics of how people date.

It has become hard to know where one lies in a relationship due to how quickly people move on.

"Thoughts of my older self. Relationships in 2021 especially with technology are so dicey!

Today you’re with this one and the next day you’ve flipped the screen saver and you’re with the guy/ girl that was in ur DM as a “friend” who you found solace in.

I find it hard to even have a relationship because you don’t know if you’re an “option”, a “good time” a “I needed a rebound” a “just need sex” a “forever” or a “bank”.

We’ve learned to keep secrets and options and lie straight about it! Without even missing a beat. I think the phones have come in the way of our relationships."

And have enabled us to have options; move our attention to what will give us a quick fix of laughter, give us a quick Flirty moment to make us feel good when our partner doesn’t give us those things in real life."

Tedd added:

"Maybe it’s time to do ourselves a solid favour and if you’re in a relationship start by giving your partner ALL ACCESS to your mobile devices.

Let you and them feel free to be open about anyone coming to put your relationship in harm, start building a safety net around you.

And cutting out these “optional fun time people” that steal time, steal happiness and steal moments that you could have had together.2 people become 1.

How do you become one while still wanting to live a separate “incase of drama jump to next man/ woman” life…?

This is why some of us opt out of the crazy. Adapting to the scroll-like Dm and keep secrets for a rainy day ain’t for me! Sips tea sits back to watch the per person sharing life"