Unpacking cheating; Why women cheat...

Piece by: Caroline Mutembei
Lifestyle

We all want to find that perfect guy. We're all looking for love: the big kind, the one that will change the world as we know it.

At times we get the exact opposite of what we hoped for and that could be given as an excuse for cheating.

However, cheating has its downsides that are not so popular.

Here we unpack the truth behind cheating.

The two of them are so different, but both have qualities that spark your interest.

One of them may have the best sense of humour; the other may be incredibly witty and smart. One may have the best butt; the other may have an impressive beard. (Hey, aesthetics matter to girls, too).

When you're seeing two guys at the same time, they're rarely similar. That's what makes the situation attractive: They're great in opposite ways.

A lot of guilt is involved

You feel like an actress in your own life. You're playing the perfect girlfriend in two different relationships. You're wracked with guilt.

You like both men so much, but you can't bring yourself to pick just one. This makes you want to cry.

The fear of missing out (FOMO)

That ever-dreaded plague, the thing that keeps you wrapped up in both relationships: FOMO.

You keep up the charade as long as you possibly can, hoping that the world will decide for you. You're terrified of missing out. You don't want to choose wrong and end up with nothing.

You don't want to look back on this time in your life and think, “Wow, I really messed up when I was so close to finding love.”

You are more likely to mix up their names

It's completely unavoidable. At one point or another, you will call one of your "boyfriends" by the other's name.

Best-case scenario: It happens when you're out and about. When one of them starts giving you a great amount of fun times than the other, it is easier for you to mix up names.

It is very exhausting

It is straight-up exhausting to date two people at once. I mean, it's hard enough to take the time to see one person, let alone two.

You end up so overwhelmed as you try to balance your evenings between your boyfriends -- AND make time for your friends.

It seems like more trouble than it's worth.

You are constantly thinking about the future.

You know you have to choose eventually.

It's ever-present in the back of your mind. It's a little voice whispering, “You need to pick one. You can't go on like this. They're going to find out.”

You try to picture life with just one boy, but you can't. The guy you're with at any given moment will be the one you like the most. You are always flip-flopping back and forth.

You are constantly in the mix up of lies.

You become the biggest liar in the entire world.

You find yourself making up all kinds of ridiculous fabrications to keep both the guys separated from each other.

It becomes impossible to keep your lies straight.