Sam West reveals the most undermined factor that saved his marriage

Piece by: Peninah Njoki
Lifestyle

Things seem to have gone back to normal for celebrity couple Vivianne and her husband Sam West. This is months after she said their marriage was in a bad place.

Sam West, a motivational speaker, and Vivianne's’ music manager said they have overcome the challenge that had put them there in the first place.

Speaking exclusively to he said,

‘One of the challenges we have overcome is lack of proper communication.

Like most couples living together, we struggle with communication.

People have separated because of lack of communication, Also there are so many relationships that could be solved because of communication.'

Months ago, Vivianne left her fans in shock after she took to her social media to pen a long letter on how her relationship is not perfect unlike what most people think.

She wrote,

TODAY I WANT TO BE VERY CANDID. NATAKA NIONGEE WAZI... THE WORLD FIRST MET @SAMWESTKE WHEN HE DECIDED TO PROPOSE ON THE BIGGEST TV SHOW IN THE COUNTRY.

I WAS SHOCKED AND THIS WAS UNEXPECTED FOR ME.

I COULDN’T SAY YES OR NO SO I SAT THERE IN FRONT OF 40MILLion KENYANS HOPING THE WORLD WOULD SWALLOW ME BUT IT DIDN’T, SO I SMILED.

FIRST FORWARD I HAVE WORKED WITH SAM WEST AND BEEN HIS WOMAN FOR 4 YEARS.

SO TO GET TO THE POINT THIS POST IS FOR YOU WHO UNDERSTANDS THAT WHAT SOCIETY HAS LABELED AS MARRIAGE IS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO EXIST IN.

WE ARE TWO HUMANS WHO HAVE LEARNT THE HARD WAY. WE ARE FRIENDS AND WE WILL ALWAYS CARE ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. OUR UNION HAS HOWEVER TAKEN A KICK TO THE STOMACH.’

Vivianne added,

‘IG IN-LAWS CAN ATTEST TO THE FACT THAT I HAVEN’T POSTED SAM ON MY FEED FOR THE PAST ONE MONTH OR SO.

WE FELT IT WOULD BE IMPORTANT TO SHARE THE TRUTH THAT MARRIAGE CAN GET DIFFICULT..

SOCIAL MEDIA COUPLES HAVE CREATED ILLUSIONS OF PERFECT MARRIAGES WHICH WE FEEL ARE QUITE MISLEADING.

TO BE HONEST WE HAVE IGNORED EACH OTHER’S NEEDS IN OUR UNION . EXPECTATIONS AND CONTROL TOOK OVER OUR RELATIONSHIP.

WE ARE IN A TOUGH SPACE AND TO BE HONEST WE ARE HOPING WE WILL OVERCOME THE CURRENT CHALLENGE.

HII SIO KIKI. FOR THOSE WHO LOVE EVEN ONE OF US REMEMBER US IN YOUR PRAYERS. MAY GOD’S WILL BE DONE.

IN THE MEANTIME UKIPATA UNAYEMDHAMINI NEVER TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED., 

Well for kamati ya roho chafu who thought that Sam and Vivianne are no more, poleni sana.

The couple has two kids and for now bringing up the kids and loving each other is their main focus, kuachana haiko kwa agenda.

Do you agree with Sam that lack of communication can break a marriage/relationship?