Sonia Ogbonna, the wife of popular actor, model, and media personality Ikechukwu Mitchel Ogbonna popularly known as IK Ogbonna is always advising fellow women on relationships.
The motivational speaker has said that women are brainwashed that every relationship must lead to marriage. She explained that one will meet different people and not all will make her happy.
For some reason,people (mostly females) are brainwashed to think that every relationship that didn’t lead to marriage is a”waste of time”. Where you rushing to? Let me start with à gently reminder-marriage isn’t any form of achievement like some of you might think . You make yourself a Queen, no one will do it for you. Achievement is to be happy. Period. Let me explain further: everybody was sent to our lives for a purpose, but NOT EVERYONE was meant to stay.
Some are meant to teach you things you need to know to continue your journey towards your destiny, but without them. Your paths will split after their mission is complete ,and that’s not a tragedy but a huge blessing . You helped each other out now its time to go. No regrets,no hard feelings because EVERYTHING sent your way is ALWAYS a GIFT 🌹Experience is the greatest source of wisdom,and be thankful for it. Real purpose of it is not to teach you about others or to make you develop a negative stereotype about them (“all men this/all men that”) but to allow you to get to know YOURSELF better. That’s the real purpose of interactions with others-to trig a knowledge that will help you understand yourself better,to understand what you really want and what you can/can’t deal with . To help you learn about your own capacities and weaknesses and above all to help you open your eyes about what you truly deserve and how worthy you actually are. Without experience you are most likely to settle for any kind of rubbish treatment and poor relationship assuming its all “normal” and “the way it was suppose to be” because you simply have no clue about life and you barely know yourself so you can easily fall a victim of manipulation and COMPLETELY LOOSE YOUR PERSONALITY in process. Take your time. You gotta stop FORCING things-it can only lead to to MISERY,relax,enjoy life,love yourself,follow signs and hear your guts out: whatever feels off,trust me, probably is.’
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In another post, Sonia told women not to rush into marriage thinking it’s a bed of roses and afterward start complaining.
‘HEAR ME OUT : you are not angry at me. The way (YOU THINK) I live my life doesn’t offend you. You are angry at yourself because you settled to live in prison,in a terrible fear of being different because you can’t handle being judged and misunderstood so you sacrificed your own freedom hoping to get “approval” that you are something you don’t even want to be but society makes you feel you should be . You tryna hear that “decent” so badly like your life depends on it. Or you are afraid of loosing people (a man?lol) in your life if you decide to submit to your own self instead submitting to them? You wish to do you but you can’t because you are so scared someone would find it offensive?
Who are you? What is your purpose? To live in fear & walk on eggshells ,so carefully and slowly so you won’t be called out?? You live but you are not alive ,of course you upset. . You must be upset.
You are what your parents says you are,what your church says you are ,what your husband says you are.
BUT YOU ARE NOT YOURSELF!
You live mechanically,you are programmed . But I feel your pain because when I was younger I wasn’t any better. I was very bitter and envious of others because I wasn’t happy with myself (I was chubby & broke haha) . Now I know,it had nothing to do with them. I didn’t even know myself,let’s start there. I was trying to prove a point. Rubbish really. Try and get to know you better,trust me you don’t know yourself at all. But this time minus society. Just you. Hear yourself out. Discover your essence,your purpose. What defines your whole being and existence? A TITLE society labeled you with? A MR or MRS? “BABYMAMA”? “WIFE”? “SINGLE”? Lol. Common! Don’t be ridiculous. You are so much more than that. Freedom is the most beautiful thing ever and I pray you experience it. Life is really not that serious ❤️’