A woman has written to a relationship expert, Wendy, complaining about her once-upon-a-time best friend who has turned into a total stranger. According to this woman, she has had several miscarriages and the friend she counted on, abandoned her and she doesn't communicate anymore.

She claims her friend recently got a baby and she learnt about it through social media. She wants to send a gift to her friend to congratulate her on her new bundle of joy but she's confused on whether to do it or not. She doesn't want to be seen as desperate.

Here is what she wrote;

"I have a very close college friend whom I have known for almost 15 years. We were in each other’s weddings but now live in different cities. She has known about my struggles and my miscarriages. We also used to visit each other once a year.

Well, we went a few months without really talking and then, on Mothers Day, she announced on Facebook that she was pregnant. I was hurt that she didn’t email, call, or text me the news. She treated me like I was just some random person she barely knew. I emailed her and she wrote that she didn’t know how to bring it up to me. Then I wrote her back and heard nothing. About six weeks later I saw pictures from her baby shower that I wasn’t invited to. Then a week ago, I saw the baby on Facebook.So, this has happened with other people.

Like miscarriages are contagious or they don’t want to flaunt pregnancies at me. This woman was different because we used to be such good friends. I am not sure if she is just over the friendship or if she just handled all this badly. I want to send the baby a gift but don’t know if that is just really lame because she clearly is over the friendship. I am at a loss in figuring out when you give up on a friendship"