Sad truth is that people pleasing builds resentment in the long run. The good news is, that there are some possible solutions to this plague.
1. Remember that relationships are a two-way avenue: give and take
A strong and healthy relationship involves a certain degree of reciprocity.
If one person is always giving and the other is always taking, it often means that one person is forgoing things that they need to ensure that the other person has what they want.
There is no way traffic kind of relationship.
2. Avoid making excuses
Excuses are made when one has the fear to say no, or turn down an offer or proposal.
Making excuses will cause one to have an overwhelming catalog of things to be done.
It's important to say no and avoid blaming other obligations or making excuses for your inability to participate.
3. Establish Boundaries
Clear boundaries as a matter of fact.
If it seems like someone is asking for too much, let them know that it's over the bounds of what you are willing to do and that you won't be able to help.
Having established boundaries ensures that you have control of not only what you are willing to do, but also when you are willing to do it.
4. Affirm Yourself
Speaking positively to yourself to counter negative thoughts
People pleasing will sometimes masquerade as low self-esteem, affirmation is one way to win the battle.
It can be as simple as 'I am enough, 'It's okay for me to say no'
5. Know what you are responsible for
People pleasing will tend to make it appear as though you are responsible for everyone's happiness and if they are not, you are doing something wrong.
It's okay to sit with the discomfort of I am definitely not responsible for every occurrence.
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