This might not come as a surprise to some of you, but there's no definition of what's really "normal" when it comes to the question of "how long should you date before getting married?
It's obvious that answers will vary from decades of dating to four freaking days Lol! You know it is absolutely crazy when you and your significant other have known each other for less than a month and the only thing you're minds are clicking on is wedding bells.
Your intellect tells you that you have to wait while on the other hand, your heart is persuading you to move faster so that you can start your forever after. Insane right?
One thing to consider if you worry that your relationship is moving too fast is that you might still be in that initial lovey-dovey phase. You know what we're talking about.
When you find yourself laughing at every of your guy's silly jokes that wouldn't really be funny if it was posed by someone else.
It's when you can't erase that goofy grin off your face, when every single thing your partner does is perfect and magical at the same time. When you find yourself smiling at any flex your partner does like yawning, stretching, and so forth.
Those early days of a relationship often pass in a fog of bliss. Texts from friends go unreturned, entire weekends are lost in bed, movies are watched one after the other.
But many relationships crumble by the three-month mark. This is when you start seeing the other person’s flaws because by that time pretense can't be hidden anymore.
If you can weather the three-month point, those early days will set the tone for your future relationship.
Therefore before you rush to propose, give yourself time to know your partner through the good times and the bad.
Think about all the experiences you've shared. Have you faced major life challenges together? Have you seen them at their highest and their lowest?
Have you had the time to learn about their family and background? Do you know their strengths and their flaws?
Get to experience what it's like to live with each other or spend a lot of time with each other.
Get to go through some life cycle issues, like the loss of a family member or the loss of a friendship, or going to a wedding or funeral and really getting to see each other in a lot of different contexts and rethink whether it's a good match.
This can generally happen in a year. Problems will emerge up and you prolly want to see how you will deal with these issues together.
Your partner might be the type of wanting more photos taken while each moment passes while on your side that’s not where your head is at.
You will have kiboshed it before it even gets somewhere which is okay because after all he or she ain't your match. Such will help you discover if both of you agree to most things that make you an item.
It's more about the range of experiences that lead themselves to compatibility rather than the amount of time. There is no set time limit to gain this experience.
You can learn a lot about a person quickly, especially if you spend a lot of time together. Alternately, you can date someone for months and years and barely dig beneath their surface.
If you're wondering how soon is too soon to propose, take a step back and make sure you and your partner have had these important conversations.
You'll want to know your partner's expectations for your relationship. Now might also be a good time to discuss whether you want to have children, how you both deal with money and what you both want for your future.
You also don't want to leave your partner in a dilemma of whether you're wasting their time or if they really are a part of your future.
A promise ring should come first. This is a ring given from one lover to another in a romantic relationship to signify their commitment to a marriage proposal(but not always), and accepting the ring does so for the recipient.
Although you should note that giving your partner two commitment rings in less than a year is strange. Superstitious people have even said this can jinx your relationship.
The opinions expressed in this article are the writer's own. Do you agree or disagree?
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