It was great at the very start. Not a day went by without texting or calling your partner to find out how they were doing. You exchanged flowers every so often, marked each other’s anniversaries, and went on countless late-night dates. You thought you had met your soul mate and swore to stick together for eternity.
But as it turns out, you were wrong.
The relationship has reached a point where it causes you more tears than joy. Even after pulling all the stops to save the situation and relive the better days, things could only get worse. You know it’s about time to call it quits and go your different ways. It will be painful at first. But if it’s the best decision under the present circumstances, you’ll eventually get over it.
So, you take your phone to write them a breakup text message but then your mind goes blank.
If this is your first breakup, you may never know how to end it. That’s especially if you honestly believe your partner is entirely to blame for not pulling their weight to save the relationship.
A breakup text isn’t something that you just wake up and write. Instead, there’s specific criteria to follow.
First off, you should establish whether you really want to end the relationship. Maybe you could salvage the situation.
Listen to what your heart tells you. If your differences are irreparable and you believe you’d be happier without your partner, then follow the below criteria when writing a breakup text.
1. Find a suitable time
Breaking up with your partner, be it over a text message or not, should always be done when the time is right. Ideally, you should consider sending the text in the evening when your soon-to-be ex is most likely relaxing at home and has access to their phone. It’s important that they read the message as soon as possible. You wouldn’t want to send a breakup text when your partner is, say, at work, driving, or meeting their family.
2. Keep it private
The relationship has always been a private affair between the two of you, and there’s no reason why you should now make it public just because you’re parting ways. The good thing about breakup texts is that only you and the intended recipient can determine who else sees the message. Even then, don’t share the breakup text with anyone. Most importantly, your friends shouldn’t be privy to your intentions of breaking up with your partner, at least not before the fact.
3. Be discreet
Discretion is a major hallmark of breakup texts. The message should be as brief and candid as possible. Avoid using metaphor breakup lines or other forms of figurative language that could be open to interpretation. Also, avoid lengthy details on why you’re breaking up with your partner as they likely already know why.
4. Be formal
In addition to being discreet, ensure that your breakup text carries some degree of seriousness. If possible, keep it formal and avoid using slang, emojis, or unnatural characters. Also remember that this isn’t the time to crack silly jokes (or any jokes at all).
5. Be honest
This is arguably the most important requirement of any breakup text. The message should contain the actual reason why you’re quitting the relationship. Don’t leave your partner guessing. Even if they’re abundantly aware of the reason you could possibly break up with them, it’s still necessary to mention it. And don’t exaggerate. If they played you with one of your friends, don’t make it seem as though they slept with all of your friends. That might cause them to think that you’re overreacting.
Ending things with your soon to be ex shouldn't be such a hustle. Amicable agreement should be key. And remember mindfulness is imperative, being the one behind your break-up text, make sure to be less hurtful.
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