Kenyans have in 2021 been served with relationship drama left, right and centre thanks to Amberay and her husband Jimal and first wife Amira.

Trouble started after socialite Amberay got married to Somali businessman Jimal.

The move seemed to have irked Jimal’s wife, Amira, and since then it has been one battle after another.

The trio can’t seem to get their sh*t together and it’s sad. The other case is that of Mugithi maestro Sammidoh and his baby mama Karen Nyamu.

Theirs has been a rocky relationship and below are lessons Kenyan women who are/planning to be second wives should learn.

• A dodge will always be a dodge

We all know how ‘sweet’ the forbidden fruit can be. Once a man/ woman tastes it there is never a turn back.

So if the man you are dating is cheating on his wife with you, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you with someone else?

Mwnaume ni wako akiwa kwa nyumba akitoka nje ni wa jamii (A man is only yours while in the house, once he steps out he belongs to the community.)

• Respect is a two-way road

This may sound cliché but it’s true, you can only be respected because of the respect you give other people.

In the case of Amber Ray and Jimal, it was obvious from the beginning that the socialite had no iota of respect for Amira.

Everything she did was with an intention of making Amira look bad. In the end, she is the one who has ended up looking stupid.

Having been married and divorced before, it’s obvious Amber Ray needs some refresher classes on how to keep a man.

• A cookie jar cannot hold a man forever

It's obvious men love s*x but that alone is not a guarantee he will stay.

You can even serve it to him on a silver platter and he will still cheat with a woman beneath you.

Men love to be respected and that is something Amber and Karen have proven they can’t do.

Men know how to separate their minds and emotions when getting intimate with a woman.

So don’t assume that since you have great chemistry between the sheets you are soul mates.

 A man can get intimate with you and won’t even remember your name the next day.

So ladies be woke, usiende kutulilia social media how men are dogs.

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