There is victory in getting out of a toxic relationship.

This is not an easy decision to make, especially when you have invested all your emotions to one woman or man.

I will be lying to you if I say, you can get over your toxic lover in just a day or a week. No amount of alcohol or weed can take away these memories so fast.

This kind of victory takes a process, and you should let yourself go through all the stages of pain.

Here are some of the steps you can take to get over that toxic man or woman that did not deserve you;

• Review the negative behaviours

Take your time to assess how you feel about the relationship. Ask yourself if spending time with your partner was beneficial or emotionally draining.

Do you feel low, angry, disappointed or disrespected with your partner?

Also, establish the behaviours or characters that affected you.

• Identify the benefits of the relationship

Despite being toxic, your relationship might have had a few benefits.

Ask yourself if he/she makes you feel good, or reminds you of another toxic relationship.

Some evils may not be repaired by any good deeds, hence, the best way is to save your soul by staying away.

• Surround yourself with positive people

You need someone who encourages you that there is a better person for you ahead. Do not surround yourself around friends who will only look at what you have lost, but those who will appreciate you for taking the bold step.

• Replace the negatives with future positives

When you have made the decision to walk out, move your focus from the past negatives, to a brighter future. Instead of focusing on the mistakes of your ex imagine how you would want your future relationships to be. Focus on that.