Kenyan women are a confused lot. They all start off as starry eyed girls not too bothered by boys then mature into jaded spinsters desperately chasing that wedding ring. From being chased after like the lottery to being avoided like leprosy! And all in the span of 5 few years.

To give you a better understanding allow me to get back to the genesis:

In campus, lasses get chased after by their classmates, lecturers and men already in the workforce. They are spoilt for choice and often settle for the wealthier option. But who can blame them? Life is about a simple rule -atleast as far as men and women relate:

Women are as ruthless about financial stability as men are about beauty.

You cannot promise a girl that you will be financially stable in 2 years and expect her to wait for you. That no longer happens. Self same way a woman cannot make a man stay at her behest simply because she is hitting the gym and will be sexy in 2 years. HAPANA!

After university, most of the action has died down as the lads from her class now have some coins with which they can pursue lasses still in campus. She will still be chased after by her co-workers and bosses.

But by this point, the serious suitors are dwindling. Slowly at first. Until the day the lass wakes up at 30 and realizes most of them have moved on. But atleast the boss is still interested.

Fast forward to 35...

And now at this point we can get into 7 reasons why this happens. However, please note that I am talking to successful women. The ones who had the sense to concentrate on their careers, not the lazy louts.

#1. That body count, whether perceived or real

A Kenyan lass at 21 has had two strikes on her body count. by 25, this same lass has had 5 (or more for the more out going ones). By the time a lass is 27, she has kissed multiples of 10 frogs chasing after prince charming as desperation sets in.

By 30...

So everyone is looking at you and seeing this fact as a serious problem. The men your age know this fact and refuse to deal with the fact. They would rather go for younger lasses with less sexperience.

#2. You're too opinionated, but not well informed

Have you ever tried working with a 30 year old? It is a headache. Forget all the rot about youth and love for innovations, most people (both men and women) in this bracket are rigid -and I work in the digital sphere.

Apply the same metrics to a relationship. What you end up with is an opinionated woman dating an opinionated man. At the end of the day something's got to give -and it will rarely be the African man.

So men are wary of women their age because they do not want to engage in bane arguments when they get home after having them at the office.

#3. You're just too jaded

Nothing drains the emotional reserves more than a jaded woman. And this especially happens to women who were considered "hot-cake" while at campus. Should 30 clock and they are still single, we are talking about dealing with 50 Shades of Jaded!

These particular lasses fail to understand how it is that they are single. They spent their youth chasing monied men and partying the nights away but none of those men settled down with them...

#4. There are no good men left

Any man who is 30 and not in a committed relationship will immediately be written off by women in his age bracket. How is it no woman wants him?

Women are funny in this way. They only desire men in relationships. It's almost like, if no woman wants him then he must be a bum. But the minute he gets snapped up, she starts chasing after him.

And in all honesty, any African man who is 35 and is single is either a widower or a divorcee. Whatever the case may be, the good ones are with their wives and children, not bedhopping like men 10 years younger than them.

#5. You used to be the estate matatu

If you had a reputation for being the lass everyone could get with or got with, no man would want to touch you. Period.