Kwani wamerogwa!! 18-year-old model reveals her horrific experience at the hands of a predator photographer

Piece by: Caren Nyota
Lifestyle

Since the news of Harvey Weinstein has broken, there has been many women coming forward to reveal the sexual assault and harassment they have experienced.

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The culture of listening to victims and survivors is changing, which is the exact kind of climate that has encouraged one Melbourne model to speak out.

Emma Hakansson, 18, recently shared in an Instagram post her experience with one particular photographer, who she said was 'inappropriate' with her.

'Recently an agency represented, fashion label owning photographer made comments about the 'fishy' scent of my v*****, flicked and fondled my nipples, coerced me into undressing more than I had wanted to and talked to me about sexual experiences he had had and was generally inappropriate with and far too physically close to me many times,' she wrote.  

Emma went on to explain that while the shoot was happening she was completely 'stunned' and 'taken aback' by what was going on, so said nothing.

'I simply acted normally so as to avoid further discomfort and harassment, so I could finish and leave safely,' she said.

'I was so mad at myself when I left. I had said nothing. I felt I had been weak, I had not been clear.

'My discomfort was physically visible as I froze and leaned away, but I had not told him no.'

All of this being said Emma said she realises now that consent can't be assumed as a given.

'Especially in professional circumstances, there is no way anything I previously mentioned could be thought of as acceptable,' she wrote.

The reason Emma has chosen to speak out is because she wants to make it clear that female discomfort should never be ignored or disregarded.

Emma eventually told a friend about her experience, although she knew that a lot of people in the industry respected the photographer in question.

'In fact, when I mentioned it to some other people later that week at an event, when I was asked how my shoot with this "great guy" had gone, it was sometimes shaken off as him just being a bit of a weird (but still great) guy,' Emma shared.

The photographer soon caught wind of the issues she had with him.

'He became upset and apologized profusely, begging to be able to speak to me and say sorry, continuing to try find me when he had been told I was not comfortable seeing him,' she said.

'When he finally left I received many messages from him and this apologetic display made me feel guilty, maybe he didn't mean to?'.

Soon Emma found herself questioning whether what had happened was her fault and wondered whether she should even bother telling her agent.

'But for his apology to have been sincere, he must have really not known what he did was wrong,' she said.

'And I cannot fathom how touching someone's breasts without consent, in a work environment, could be seen as anything other than wrong.'

Now Emma has told her agent and the police and wants to share her story to help others who may find themselves in her position.

'What happened may not seem like a huge deal in a world where women are raped regularly, where #metoo is trending, where Harvey Weinstein sexually assaulted so many women, for so many years, just because he could,' Emma wrote.