Motivational speaker Sam West has advised Kenyan women that the best way to earn a man's love is by respecting them and not by giving them good s@x.

According to Sam most women assume that just because a man sleeps with you he loves you, but that is not always the case.

He says

'Men have established that women translate affection as love.

Women assume that men feel loved if they have sex with you. 

A man can have sex with multiple women and not love any of them. Men translate respect as love.

If you ever want your man to feel loved respect them.

If you tell your man you love him he may not understand you, but if you respect him he will feel loved.'

He further added

'Respect is holding him in high regard and praising him.

The challenge we have in the society is that women respect their pastors, bosses and leaders more than their husbands.

He may not be your ideal man but the more you respect him the more he loves you. This is because  you build his ego.'

Men do you agree with some west that it's only by a woman respecting you that you can love them?

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