'Jared and I divorcing ruined our daughters happiness growing up,' - Akothee

Piece by: Peninah Njoki
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Akothee, the President of single mothers, has talked about divorce and how it can end up ruining children's lives if not well handled by the couple involved.

The mother of five was in the past married to Jared Okello but sadly they went their separate ways for unknown reasons.

For the first time Akothee has publicly addressed the delicate topic.

Taking to her social media she penned,

'It's easier said than done, but I tell you, divorce is worse than death, especially when children are involved 🙏.

I would never ever wish for any parents to divorce after living together for years and bring up their children as a family, I am not saying you stay in a toxic, violent unsatisfactory relationship.

But if it ever happens that their is need to break up 🙆then please try do it discreetly without involving your children🙏'

Like most mothers, Akothee says she did everything she could to protect her kids to help them cope.

'The only medal CUP I gained is trying as much as possible to cover my children's eyes never to see their father as an enemy 💪 it was hard.

I took bullets, I broke down when bills were overwhelming, my children never saw my tears, after my divorce, they only learnt about my struggles on social media, when I started sharing my past.

My children will never understand when I have have money or not, they have never seen me struggle 💪they think I have all solutions in the world 🤣🤣and that's my strength.

I bought them gifts every time my other children's fathers came to visit their children with gifts, I made sure I received the gifts first💪 combine with mines and present as a family.

I forced every man in my life to love my children equally 💔, but never asked them to call any of them daddy until OYOO WAS BORN it came automatically.'

Akothee added that her first kids Rue, Vesha and Makadia learnt to embrace the situation but it was not an automatic thing, it was a process.

'They still had their biological father, whom they Loved so much, still love him, they call him DAD.

It was difficult at times when they insisted they wanted to talk to him, This broke me down SEVERALLY, knowing he has moved on with another family and calling him will disrupt his peace and the other family might feel like I am interfering with their peace 🙏.

I took them out Everytime if they were not in school, we spent all our Saturdays and Sundays on the beach.

We went to church once in a while, since the songs sang in church would trigger the memories of the children since we brought them up in a strong church environment. 🙏 .'

In conclusion Akothee said their kids chose to forgave them and give them a second chance.

'Jared and I played a part in ruining our children's happiness while growing up, we broke their hearts to the core.

I know and we all know that it can never be the same, inside them, they are broken girls, thank God they forgave us and we are living as a family now 🙏'