'I have been hated, shunned, discriminated against and stigmatised,' HIV positive woman narrates her sad story

Piece by: Caren Nyota
Lifestyle

Read this touching story of Jyoti Dhawale Surve, an HIV positive woman, who was diagnosed with the virus in 2005.

Since then, her life changed completely, she separated with her husband but that did not deter her from creating awareness about HIV/Aids.

Here is Jyoti Dhawale Surve's story that has gone viral.

"At 3 years when most children enjoy music tapping their feet to the beats, I lost my sense of hearing. My parents told me I had lost my hearing abilities due to a bike accident, but the doctors said I have been a victim of physical abuse.

When most mothers lovingly chide their baby to eat more, mine would lock it up in the fridge and reprimand maids who dared to feed me. When I was 14 years old, I realised she was my stepmother.

When most husbands would rejoice the moment they hear that the wife is pregnant, mine dragged me to the abortion centre. He said, he wasn't ready financially and psychologically to be a father. I was shocked, I fought but I went through it. I underwent two more abortions. I could not use oral contraceptive pills because of reactions and the vaginal contraceptives needed 10 minutes of waiting, he never waited. He never liked using condoms.

When most HIV victims surrender to their destiny and give up, I have chosen to fight back like a true champion. In 2005, during the fourth pregnancy, a routine blood test showed that I was HIV+. I doubted my husband but he turned HIV- . I realised, I must have got it due to medical negligence. This time I decided to have my baby and had a healthy baby boy.

I moved to Bangalore for work as my husband was not providing the medicines I needed every month. Unfortunately I had to return in a month, someone told me that my husband was cheating on me. I fought but could not save my marriage. My home fell apart. The last I held my son was in 2008.

In 2011, when I was at my lowest, I found love again. There was initial resistance from his family because of the fact that I was HIV positive but then eventually they came around. We got married and my family was finally complete. But we are separated now and I have moved to Bangalore and work with a hospital here.

I have only 10% of hearing ability and the doctor has mentioned that soon I would lose the ability to hear. But I am not giving up. I am fighting back.

Today, I have found purpose. I advocate to removing the stigma associated with HIV+ people. I share my reality and dispel myths. My work in spreading awareness has brought India to the world map in HIV revolution.

I have been hated, shunned, discriminated against and stigmatised. But I have learnt to walk with dignity and with my head held high. I am a survivor, I am a brave heart and this is my story.

Her story has inspired many and here are some of the comments

Vaishali Bhagat: You are a true warrior, an inspiration to many. ..

Caspar DeeKwat: Thank you for opening your heart to the world! No matter what challenge is thrown at you, believe you can handle and you will be repaid for all your efforts. Satyamev Jayate - the truth, in whatever form and in whatever situation - ALWAYS prevails! A big hug and so proud, honoured and humbled to have you in my life!

Roma D'sa: Fighting right has kept you upright good luck to you from now on you don't need to depend on anyone that sets you free God bless you girl

Cindy D'Silva: You are an inspiration to those who complain about petty things in life! You overcame all the big ones!!

Melani Mel Shamiela: Wow ...you are a strong, brave woman .....you are a survivor ...💟..May God give you more strength and power.Never give up ....remember God is always with you ...God bless!!

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