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Setting boundaries in relationships is important especially before you get to know somebody.

Prepare yourself in these areas

Past Lives

Past lives should not be a topic of discussion.

Whatever happened before the two of you met should be left in the past. Unless it is very important— a matter of life and death.

Revisiting past relationship makes the relationship wavy.

Overall Expectations

First off, you should always discuss what you expect out of someone, and what you expect to receive.

A lot of people enter relationships putting the burden of healing/completing them onto someone else.

A relationship should be a balance of give-and-take, not take till there’s nothing left for someone to give.

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The love of money is the root cause of all evil. It can also be the root cause of a lot of fights in relationships.

In a situation where a couple has no plan on how finances are to be spent and how responsibilities are to be shared, couples may end up overstepping their boundaries.

Finances are vital is ensuring a relationship is stable. It is vital to set the boundaries as soon as possible.


Setting basic boundaries on how much each other’s family interaction impacts the relationship will prevent a lot of emergency restoration later.

Let your family not influence your decisions as far as the relationship is concerned. It’s a two-person affair

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Everyone has different physical pain thresholds.

It is important that you and your partner discuss the things that you’ll tolerate and those that are a no go zone.

A relationship lasts longer depending on the things you can tolerate and for how long you are willing to tolerate it.

Sexual Expression

It is important for both of you to identify how far you can go sexually.

Sometimes your partner may overstep which will result in the both of you fighting.

This can only be avoided when both if you respect each other’s boundaries.

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Your lover will never like all of your friends, nor you theirs, but that doesn’t stop a lot of people from trying to determine who the other can and can’t have as friends.

Set mutual boundaries of respect that the other can make reasonable decisions as to who they allow to influence them and, by extension, who they allow to influence the relationship.

Digital Presence

In the age of iPhones and social media, it’s necessary to discuss how much access a lover has to your digital presence.

Couples should be able to talk about what they post on their pages and what not to.

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