Budding artiste Tanasha Donna has spoken for the first time about her failed relationship with Tanzanian crooner Diamond Platnumz.
Tanasha hooked up with Diamond, late 2018 and on October 2, 2019, they welcomed their first child together.
Their relationship just like any other started being rocky along the way forcing her to move out early March 2020. She accused her baby daddy of infidelity.
Speaking in an interview with True Love Magazine, Tanasha said,
I could fight all those people but I realised I couldn’t fight alone. My mom has shown me that if it doesn’t work, you fight. If it is too many back and forth or when you reach a dead-end that is when you bounce. I fought it all. But when it came to infidelity I realised I was fighting a war on my own,’ she said,
I confronted him, blocked him and called it quits. It was the limit for me especially since I was loyal like crazy for him. It had been ride or die for me. I had to leave for the sake of my son and my own mental health.
She explained that the relationship started having issues six months before they parted ways.
For the past six months, we were still trying to see how we could make things work and then it got to a point where you feel like the other person has just lost interest and it’s not because of anything emotional I would say is not living up to certain expectations he had in the relationship. It’s nobody’s fault. Everyone is the way they are and when you don’t live up to this person’s expectations for some people it is not easy to handle while for some it’s okay. I would say that is where things started going down cos i wanted to be my own perosn and really wanted to be in this relationship. When you love yourself, you’ll be able to love in a relationship. You Will be able to love your family, your child so it starts with self love.
Tanasha said she was slowly healing from the heartbreak and now focusing on her son and music career.
I’m doing good. I see myself as a strong woman. it’s what every woman goes through. You may have certain expectations when you get into a relationship or business and things don’t turn out exactly the way you want them to. So that’s when you decide, ‘is it worth fighting for?’ …that becomes a decision you make and at the end of the day, we do what is best for us.
The mother of one went ahead to reveal that she doesn’t regret after her relationships didn’t go well.
I have been in two serious relationships in my life and I learnt something from these relationships. Never have regrets regardless. I would never say ‘oh I regret this’. Everything happens for a reason and it’s always a lesson at the end of the day.
One thing I have learnt is to never go into a relationship with expectations. They always lead to disappointment.
Tanasha revealed she got too comfortable after getting in a relationship with Diamond and blames herself for that.
When you get comfortable in a relationship it isn’t a healthy thing because every individual should have own personal lives, their own careers, dreams going on but still be compatible together. still complement one another.
In this era women know their value but there are still some women who still think ‘I have to do what my man wants, need to be the perfect wife, submissive…’. If you really look at it from a logical perspective and not emotional perspective, that can end up being really toxic.
Asked if she would ever go back to Diamond, she said,
At this point, my mind has been traumatised to the point I don’t know if I could.