"When a man beats you the first time walkout!" Sam West

20 October 2021

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• "Sometimes the red flags may not be physical they can be verbal. Some people also use deprivation tactics where they deny you something so that you are helpless."-Sam West

Kenyan motivational speaker Sam West has advised Kenyans to always walk away on the first incident of abuse.

Sam said waiting for someone to change may end in disaster. Speaking exclusively to Mpasho, Sam said;

"When a man beats you the first time walkout. Do not wait. Every time a man/woman lays a hand on you that is a red flag.

Sometimes the red flags may not be physical they can be verbal. Some people also use deprivation tactics where they deny you something so that you are helpless.

Women mostly deny a man sex. Men on the other hand may deny you money."

Sam's advice comes at a time when the Ndichu brothers are trending after being caught assaulting a woman at Ole Sereni.

The woman whose identity remains private says she was attacked by the twins after turning down their advances.

The advice above hits home for Sam as his wife Vivian has been a victim of abuse before.

Vivianne was once sexually attacked by someone well known in the public after she turned him down.

"It was in 2015 when I was new in the industry and because he knew I wanted to succeed, he asked for sexual favours.

I heard this is something that happens to so many young girls who are trying to venture into the industry. It is the way they use to lure young people and they know definitely some will agree.

Vivian said,

"I have been in a physically abusive relationship although it happened once and I walked out right after that."

The Cham Cham hitmaker advised her fans to walk out of abusive relationships and not to tolerate it and suffer in silence. Vivianne also said she wishes she reported the crime.