• Kawira's ex-husband says she has denied him child access.
• Kawira had revealed she had never slept with a man when she got married to Ephantus, saying she regrets why she settled with the pastor.
Gospel music producer Ephantus Wahome Safari, the ex-husband to Papa Shirandula actress Kawira Joy has come out to share his part of the story revealing details about their failed marriage.
His wife, Kawira had announced she quit the marriage while accusing him of being violent and that they were not compatible.
She alleged that she endured years of irreconcilable differences vowing never to get married again.
Ephantus shared adorable photos of two of their three surviving children, thanking God for the gift of life.
The two, Kawira and Ephantus has wed in 2014 in a colorful wedding ceremony.
In a long post on his Facebook page, Ephantus shared a long post detailing their union since the day they met.
He said marriage is so sacred, no one gets into it with a second thought.
"On 22nd November 2014 I said Yes I do to the love of my life in a colorful wedding attended by friends and family," he said.
"I met my wife at a function, we had given her an opportunity to MC. We courted less than a year and boom, ’The wedding’.
Marriage is an institution, you work it out. No one is perfect and both parties have a role to play.
I did not marry an actress neither did she marry a businessman and if I did marry an actress, you have the answer to why she is running from one media house to another.
She married Ephantus, she saw my gifting and that is why she encouraged & introduced me to her bishop friends in Meru for ordination as a pastor in 2017."
Ephantus went on to state that his wife's strong attachment to her mother and living with them was a problem.
Ephantus said at some point Kawira was not ready to leave her mother to be a wife.
Despite this, he allowed the living arrangement something he regrets doing to date.
"My wife had a strong attachment with her mother noting that she was the breadwinner and the mother lived in her house.
The Bible says both shall leave their parents and they shall come together. Upon getting married she wasn't ready to move out without her mother.
From where I grew up, mothers-in-law do not live with their children in the same house of which there was a period I allowed it but the outcome wasn't good (story for another day).
The first two years were difficult for both of us having to counter pressures from family and friends."
Ephantus also shared how they unsuccessfully tried to conceive immediately after getting married.
"We tried to conceive with no results. I encouraged my wife we sought the help of a doctor.
I walked with her throughout the treatment and finally, God came through.
She conceived and sadly again, it was a blighted ovum. We had to terminate.
We prayed and trusted God as we were going on with treatment. God rewarded us with triplets.
I accompanied my wife to all her clinics and in the 32nd week, we were informed one baby had succumbed.
It was tragic for us but thank God for the doctors who saved my twins."
Ephantus explained that with no explanation, one day, he came home to an empty house.
"I kept my family in the very best a man can keep a woman. I provided for my family to a point of supporting the extended family as well but one evening from work I found an empty home," he said.
He added that after she left, he tried to see his children but he has no access to them something he said is taking a toll on him.
"I loved Joy with all my heart. I have engraved my kid's initials on my arm. I inflicted pain to heal the pain of missing my lovely children.
I have requested co-parenting she has declined. I tried to reach out, sent friends, and called her but my calls went unanswered.
For the past two years until the date she started doing rounds on social media, I did not know why my family left.
I am psychologically tortured, as she has kept our kids, whom I saw to growth almost 5 times a day at Mp Shah hospital when she was in the house recovering.
Rev Lilian Young, a family confidant can attest to this. Her accusations have damaged my reputation."
Ephantus also said that the constant attack by his ex-wife on media platforms is affecting his brands and his businesses are hurting.
He accused her mum of encouraging her daughter to spoil his brand alleging that she did not like him from the start.
"My businesses are failing. It's hurting, she is getting all these encouragements from somebody I called ‘mum’; the ‘mum’ who was against me marrying her from the day I introduced her.
In my pre-marital counseling, I learned that there are no perfect marriages."
Ephantus told his ex-wife to move on and stop clout chasing with false allegations and allow him to heal.
"Mine wasn't to be perfect and if yours is, then we give glory back to God. Challenges are there some I can't write, there are so personal that if I do rounds mentioning it might affect even our growing children.
As alleged by my wife, we were not compatible. And if that is the case, kindly let's move on.
Clout chasing with me may not help much instead, our kids will one day question you as, to why you deprived them of the love and support of their father.
I wish you well and all the grace to overcome every obstacle."