I haven’t exactly moved on-Raburu on divorce and child loss

•Willis spoke on the pain of losing a child and the tough divorce process

Willis and Marya's wedding
Willis and Marya's wedding
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In a recent interview he made on a vernacular TV station, lanky media personality Willis Raburu, opened up about the terrible child loss he suffered at the very beginning of 2020.

Bazu as he is affectionately known said that he wouldn't wish that experience upon his worst enemy. The 10 over 10 presenter added that he wished he could have kept his personal life hidden away from the public. 

“The reason a lot of people know about my relationships is because of social media. And looking back, if I had an option I wouldn’t have advertised my relationships on social media. Not only do you feel the heartache but it comes with embarrassment as well. Everyone is always gossiping about you…you’ll hear people whispering about. Divorce and child loss is something I wouldn’t wish even upon my worst enemy,” he added.

Raburu who doesn't love speaking about his divorce to ex-wife MaryaPrude said that it was the last option.

“It was very difficult because when you decide to settle on divorce, it means you have tried so many other things like talking, therapy, tried going to church…But when it reaches a point where all your misunderstandings are pointed towards hurting your partner then it’s better to just stay as friends,” he explained.

He said that one of the issues in his marriage was that he bottled his problems,

“Bottling a lot of issues in marriage is not healthy. Men are told they need to be strong and not cry but in reality, I was sad and crying on the inside. When I left the house I used to cry as well. You can only be strong for so long as it is assumed men should be. But it reaches a point when you have had enough and can’t take it anymore. And when you reach the end, you start to be resentful towards your partner as they are towards you.”

He explained that at the end he couldn't go on pretending that all was good,

“Personally I was thinking about my life…people know me, I am a Christian I go to church, people know my dad, people see me on TV, my marriage was on social media, couple goals and all then now divorce! At the end of it you have to count the costs, your sanity comes first and for the sake of peace both internally and externally divorce is the only option when you have reached the end.”

Willis Raburu with ex-wife Marya Prude
Willis Raburu with ex-wife Marya Prude
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His advice for married couples was that they should look at themselves critically and admit fault in order to resolve conflict.

“You must also acknowledge that as much as your partner is on the wrong, what role did you play in this? But first, you must forgive yourself. It is heavy and painful and I haven’t exactly moved on…I think about all of them, from Sally Mbilu(ex fiancee), Marya to my late child. And it is still painful.”

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