Yesterday I wrote an article about some of the most scandalous things that Lillian Muli has said about her exes.
While writing the article it struck me that the common gripe Lillian had with her two exes (the ones we know about) was cheating.
Two quotes she has written in the past about her second baby daddy, Jared Nevaton, over the years are below;
"I can't stand liars and especially men who deny their wives. Just speak your truth and say you are married if you are not ati you are dating a guy and then you find out after two years he has not only one but three wives."
“...When you actually believe someone is true to you only to find out they are community husbands you are safer stepping aside. Nobody should ever tag me in posts about Jared Ombongi who has previously been associated with me I disassociate myself from such links from today."
In her divorce filing against her first hubby, Moses Njuguna Kanene, Lillian alleged that her (then) husband was adulterous, having cheated on her with several women before abandoning her.
Now, this is where I come in. Both of the men that Lillian has dated seriously have allegedly cheated on her.
While I empathise with Lillian's plight, my pet peeve with the retelling of her past relationships is a lack of accountability, especially as far as Jared Nevaton goes.
What do I mean when I say that? In her telling of the story, especially as far as Jared goes, she acts as if she had no agency in the whole situation.
For a person who had already ended a marriage after claiming infidelity as a major problem, I think she should have been more discerning as far as spotting a potential cheat went.
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" or "once bitten twice shy" are popular sayings that are analogous to this scenario.
The sobering truth is that the type of men that a woman of Lillian's caliber normally fall for are men of worth, wealth, and stature.
These men are a rare breed and as such command the hearts and minds of many women. They are at the apex of the totem pole and with this comes the ability to have women at their beck and call.
A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything.
This saying applies excellently to her situation. Most men in Jared's position (if they are honest) normally have mistresses or a harem of women they are dealing with.
It comes with the territory. Ask any woman who has a wealthy husband the most common challenge she faces?
It is either her husband's roving and wandering eye or many other women pining for her man. It is the nature of the beast and comes with the territory when dealing with high net worth men.
In summary, Lillian's biggest problem in her dating life is the men she chooses to date-the top 10% of men who see women as playthings and easily replaceable.
These men have wonderful financial upsides as far as wining and dining goes, but they will most likely cheat on you.
They are great for a short thrilling fling but are a bad bet for anything long-term as there will always be other women in the marriage.
The question about these men isn't if they will cheat, it is when?
But what do I know?