But why is our society lacking in wonderful women like Lavendar? What went wrong? I think that I might have the answer-you see we just aren't raising women to become wives or to look forward to becoming wives.
The Bible says, in Proverbs 18:22, "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord."
The crucial phrase in the verse above is the first part. The man who is finding a WIFE! A finished product! Meaning that when the couple exchange vows, the woman is already a wife in thought and deed.
The truth is that in modern society's bid for equality (which I fully endorse), we have made many women see marriage as secondary (and inferior) to other life goals like career and self-sufficiency.
While the latter two things are great and should be encouraged, they do take a lot of time and dedication to learn and earn.
Why aren't parents teaching their daughters to become wives, the same way they are pushing them to get great careers with zeal?
So once these women are done with school and are deep into their careers, their communities start asking them where their husbands are? Or why they can't keep a man?
How can these women become wives and they have no clue and experience about the role? Let's not forget that all their lives these women have been given the independent woman schtick, which advocates for the individual above all else, something that will not work in marriage.
Now when many modern women meet a worthy man, things like sacrifice, duty and devotion which are a must in any successful marriage look like servitude to a man.
Wives don't magically appear after the vows are exchanged, it is something a woman has to learn from the time she is a girl. But who is there to teach them?
Simply put, a society will prioritize and give time to what it values. How much time do we spend teaching women to become great wives? Hmmm...I thought so.
But this just my opinion.
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