The case of Wilbroda-Why a wife's relatives can be as destructive as a mom-in-law

GEOFFREY MBUTHIA ENTERTAINMENT SUB-EDITOR

22 September 2021

Papa Shirandula actress Wilbroda was recently interviewed on Buzz Central and revealed one of the reasons that had contributed to her marriage failing.

She admitted that it had failed as she always had her relatives around, something her ex-husband mentioned to a friend once they were done.

"I also contributed to the breakup. I think that one thing that contributed to our breakup was that I was with my relatives all the time. My sisters were always at my house, I didn't see a big deal with it until later on after we broke up, he mentioned it to his friend," she said.

"I didn't see that. Looking at it now I am like, I contributed to their coming. I went overboard. I enjoyed their company but it cost me."

What I like about her admission is that she is accountable and can see the part she played in her marriage failing. I commend her for it.

Other than that, her pointer about what she did (having her relatives around) that contributed to the end of her marriage is spot on.

Marriage is for two people. Anything else and it becomes a crowd. There is a reason the Bible says in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave (to stay very close to) unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Marriage is already tough, having one's relatives around all the time, can add another unnecessary potential problem to it.

The thing is this, most ladies (and some men) don't realise how important it is for a man and his wife to have the home to themselves, at least for the initial years of the marriage.

Why? The couple has to establish a routine and habits that work for them before any outside interference.

These best practices will most likely be affected if other family members are around when that is happening.

Let's not lie that when one's relatives are staying at a person's home, they are most likely to take their own kins side as they are partisan.

This is just human nature. We are tribal at the end of the day. So in a case like Wilbroda, would her sisters who saw the inner workings of her marriage more intimately, give her the best advice or back her up even if she was wrong?

Also, let's not lie, most men want to be the king of their castles. A notion like this becomes foreign as the man has to walk on eggshells as he navigates not only dealing with his wife but also her kin.

This will frustrate even the most patient of men who will see that they are an enemy in their own home as the relatives will always gang upon him.

What Wilbroda did in her marriage is akin to a man bringing his mother-in-law to stay in at his home after he has just gotten married.

Do you really see a marriage like that surviving? I thought so...

But what do I know...