Kiss 100 presenter Felix Odiwuor alias Jalang’o added his voice to the throng, when he spoke on Citizen TV news anchor Trevor Ombija's 10-year relationship.

He said that Ombija's biggest mistake was letting the relationship go on for 10 years without taking it to the next level.

“Trevor is an amazing man, a lively person and a great human. He is one guy you sit next to and you're just like wow, I’m honoured being in your presence. A young man who is level-headed and an amazing guy...you get what I mean, but I think it took too long, 10 years yawa?” Jalang’o wondered.

“10 years Trevor you should have already taken the dowry, have two children with a house in Diani. Madaraka Day kumi...I think that is where my brother went wrong,” he added.

He said that Ombija's ex stating that she was leaving the relationship to "find herself" was a sign that she had grown tired of waiting to officiate things.

Kameme Goro also chimed in and said that 10 years was a very big part of a woman’s life to give to her partner with no results.

“If you're 30, 10 years is your 20s which is the better part of your start to adult life that you've committed to one person. So when she says I need to find myself, it makes sense if you've given 10 years of the most fundamental years of your adult life to someone and nothing has happened. I can imagine.

“You ask yourself some very serious questions like what am I doing?... What's in it for us?...you know...Do we have a future?” Kamene stated.

Are they two right? Yes, they are. Here's why:

Men are supposed to lead a relationship, the majority of the time if one fails then the man should look at himself in the mirror for the reason.

If a man is dating to get married, then you should know within the first 6 months to a maximum of 2 years ( and even that might be too long!) whether the woman is wife material.

The most important quality a man should look for in a woman above all else is cooperation ( I say this in the most simplistic of terms), as she tries to be the woman who can be led by a worthy man.

So if a man doesn't like what he sees in a woman in the first few months (which should be enough ) then why waste your time and the woman's time?

Otherwise, it shows a lack of foresight and a fear of taking a risk that is part and parcel of life. Most marriages in the past survived and funny thing is that they were all arranged marriages.

They were a testament that modern long modern courtships that we promote nowadays might not be the panacea for getting long-lasting marriages.

Dating for longer doesn't mean the relationship will survive the long haul, is what I am seeing at the end of the day...

Just look at Paul Okoye of P Square. He dated his wife Anita for 10 years before he married her. 7 years later and 3 kids, they are divorcing. 

But I am cherry-picking for some examples and I could. Maybe's Ombija's way of doing things is the right way.

You be the judge of that.

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