Effects of divorce on kids that no one tells you about - List

Piece by: Peninah Njoki
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No one ever goes into marriage/relationship with divorce in mind. But sh*t happens and parents find themselves opting to get divorced than stay married.

But the most overlooked person when such things occur are the children. Many parents assume that 'atazoea tu' but sometimes that never happens.

Below are some of the repercussions of divorce on kids that no one will tell you.

  1. Low self-esteem

Children whose parents have abruptly divorced at some point in life suffer from low self-esteem.

Depending on age, some may develop issues because of the constant jeers from schoolmates or playmates.

2. Self-blame

Most kids from divorced families suffer from self-blame. This is because they at times assume they are the reason for the parent's divorce in the first place.

3. Lack of trust

Children from divorced families develop mistrust either knowingly or unknowingly.

This is because they never know if whoever is coming into their life will stay or not.

4. Likely not to get into relationships

Kids who have witnessed their parents divorce might later in life have a hard time getting into relationships.

This is because they never had a good role model.

They might even stay in abusive relationships just because they do not want to end up divorce like their parents.

The best thing to do when preparing to divorce is to talk to your child/children and prepare them mentally.

Although it will still affect them later it will not be as disastrous as it would have been if they were not involved.