Pregnancy looks so good on gospel singer Kambua. The Bado Nasimama hit singer is heavily pregnant with her second child.
She has been sharing photos of her bulging baby bump, and she’s proof that God’s time is the best.
Kambua and her husband welcomed their first child in 2019 after seven years in marriage They were mocked for having a childless marriage.
‘Over the last few weeks I’ve had conversations with different groups of women. Some of the ones that resonated most with me are @thewaitingroom_journey (Sydney, Australia). Having walked the long, painful, sometimes lonely journey of infertility, I would like to share with you some things that women like me would like you to know. Today I’ll share the ‘What NOT to say’ to a person or couple struggling with infertility. You’re welcome to add onto this, as I obviously won’t be able to cover everything,’ she posted on her Instagram account.
Below is a list of things she shared
STOP asking people when they’re going to have children/ why they’re taking so long
If they have already have a child, STOP asking when they will have another. (Secondary infertility exists)
Weight gain is not an invitation to talk about whether or not someone is pregnant
By all means, invite us to your baby showers. STOP walking on eggshells around us
DON’T make suggestions/give advice on what to do “Just do IVF… Just Adopt”, etc, unless your opinion has been sought.
Miscarriage & infant loss is a deep, deep form of heartbreak. Avoid saying things like, “God loved them more”… “It was God’s will”… “You’ll get another one”. Sometimes, silence is really golden.
DON’T minimize the issue. Listen. Sympathise. Listen.
STOP telling men that they score blanks, or telling women to up their game. It’s not about sexual prowess!
DON’T compare people’s journeys. “So and so also had blocked tubes, PCOS, Endo”, etc. Everyone’s journey is unique and different