- Avoid exclusivity
Often, the best way to get a guy to commit is not to try too hard.
Forcing him to be exclusive too soon can send him running fast in the other direction.
Instead, many relationship experts say that it’s better to wait to be totally exclusive until the two of you are ready for a more permanent commitment.
Making him feel like you’re pushing him toward marriage too soon, however, can really terrify a guy.
2. Don’t try too much
Trying too hard is never a good idea.
To this end, you don’t want to act like a girlfriend.
I know that sounds crazy, but the thing is that when you act like you’re just a girlfriend, that’s all you’re ever going to be – plus you’re pushing the exclusivity issue.
If you’re fine with that kind of relationship, that’s great, but if you’re looking for a longer commitment, you have to act accordingly.
3. Date around
As you can see, a lot of these issues come down to being exclusive.
How will dating other men make him want to commit? For one thing, it will affect your attitude.
You won’t feel the same kind of pressure that surrounds you when you’re solely focused on one guy.
You’ll be able to see what’s out there, he will be too – and he may realize he doesn’t want you to be with anyone but him.
4. Voice your wants
Letting him know what you want is an important way to get a guy to commit.
He can’t read your mind; if he doesn’t know what you want, how can he give it to you?
As well, letting him know that you want a long term relationship, that you want something casual, or that you’re looking to get married and have children, will make sure you’re both on the same page (or not) from the start.
5. Be honest about your feelings
This is a little different from #4, but it’s in the same ballpark. You can’t get a guy to commit if you aren’t honest.
Even if he commits at first, the relationship won’t be based on truth.
Don’t lie and say you want something casual if you don’t, and don’t try to be a person you think he wants to make him give you a commitment.
6. Let him be himself
Perhaps the most important way to get your man to commit to you is to let him be himself.
Don’t force him into a pigeonhole.
You have to accept him for who he is and he has to know that.
If all you want to do is change him, then you’re better off with someone who already has the characteristics you want.