He’s smart, charming, handsome and has a great sense of humour. But as soon as you assume he’s the ideal man in your life after weeks of dating, they change into a completely different person.
And before you know it, the relationship is over.
Welcome to the world of dating – where singles are struggling to find ‘The One’ because far too often, they ignore the early warning signs of a potentially bad relationship.
There are 11 types of men you will most certainly come across on the dating scene.
1. Mr Narcissist
‘He can be charming and so lovely to be with in the beginning,’ Eugenie explained.
‘You may not realise until you are really hooked how selfish and self-centered he really is. This guy only thinks of himself.’
2. Mr Needy
‘The guy will need constant reassurance,’ she said.
‘He has low self-esteem and lacks confidence. Most women will realise this early on and will not give this poor guy a chance.’
3. Mr Commitment-phobe
‘These men start out with so much potential but when it comes to the crunch, they can’t deliver,’ she said.
‘They can leave you hanging for years. If you’re dating a commitment-phobe the only way to find out if they will change is to leave them and see if they come after you.’
4. Mr Conman
‘There are men out there who say their name is Jack when their name is really Ian,’ she explained.
‘These men actually have a fake dating name… sometimes these men are married sometimes they are just players and use a fake name to cover their tracks but they always get caught eventually to reveal the sleaze that they really are.
‘They have numerous girls on the go and refer to them as “spares” but they will make you believe you are the special one.
‘What is so scary about these men is they behave in the same way as someone who is sincere – they can really take you for a ride.’
5. Mr Sponge
‘We all know the type that always leaves his wallet at home or he will complain about his meal when there was nothing wrong to get a discount or freebie,’ she said.
‘The first sign you will notice – he allows others to pay for a round of drinks but he never shouts anyone a drink.’
6. Mr Bully
‘Nothing is good enough for this guy. He is always right and very critical. He wants all the control and everything his way. He will wear you down,’ Eugenie explained.
7. Mr Chauvinist
‘This guy might as well be living in the 1900’s the way he treats women,’ she said.
‘He thinks housework and parenting are what women should be doing while he loves being with his “mates” who he always prioritises above his girlfriend.
‘He puts women down under the pretense of a just a “joke”.’
8. Mr Stalker
Mr Stalker just does not take ‘no’ for an answer.
‘Will make contact again and again. Turning them down only seems to make them more determined,’ she explained.
‘They harass you and try to manipulate into seeing them. They totally disregard your wish to not see them.’
9. Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
‘One minute this guy is so sweet and the next turns into your worst nightmare and when you do a runner they switch again to being supper sweet,’ she said.
‘Once they have you back, they can suddenly turn nasty again.’
10. Mr Vanish without a trace
Most singles have fallen for Mr Vanish without a trace, otherwise known as ‘ghosting’.
‘You thought it was the real thing only for the guy to disappear. It’s not your fault that men act this way. You have done nothing wrong,’ she said.
‘Ghosting is a real thing and very common. Some men put a time limit – whether it be six dates or six week before they ghost you and then they move onto the next victim.’
…The very rare Mr Right
‘Many of the good guys settle down early with their first love, that is why they are so rare to find – but they are out there,’ she explained.
‘You have to meet lots of men before you find Mr. Right. The saying “you have to kiss a lot of frogs…” may be true.
‘The best way to find Mr. Right is to meet lots of people. The larger your social circle is the more chance you have of meeting someone.
‘Join clubs and groups or do a class: go to the gym, a running group, learn to sail. Get active and socialise as much as you can and of course these days you have to use dating apps.
‘Don’t dismiss someone at first impressions if they do not meet all your usual criteria – they could end up being “The One”.
‘Look for a man that is kind, a good listener and has empathy.’